Friday, March 8, 2019

Fwd: Something worse than failure

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From: Ruth Soukup <ruth@ruthsoukup.com>
Date: Fri, Mar 8, 2019 at 3:38 PM
Subject: Something worse than failure
To: <joaoa.desilva2018@gmail.com>

Robert Byrne Quotes
"The purpose of life is a life of purpose." - Robert Byrne quotes from BrainyQuote.com

Hi,

Happy Friday!

TGIF!

I'm going to try to keep this week's newsletter brief, because, as you probably know by now, the doors for Elite Blog Academy® close tonight, and as such, you may have already gotten a lot of emails from Ruth (me) and they're awfully busy. Luckily this only happens once a year, and I promise next week things will be all back to normal!

But the truth is that this is always a crazy and exciting week. Deciding to take that step to enroll in EBA® is a big deal. It's a significant investment, not just in money, but in yourself and your dreams, and that means it's often a big decision that comes with a lot of emotion. And, more often than not, a lot of fear too. Remember FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real!

But isn't that always the way, anytime we start thinking about making a big change in our life, or we think about what it might mean to actually start pursuing a big goal or dream?

Whether we are thinking about going back to school or making a career change or trying to lose weight or wanting to be more organized or more disciplined or finally getting our finances in order or paying off debt, the act of actually committing to that big goal is always a little bit terrifying.

This week we've heard so many "what ifs?"

What if this doesn't work for me? What if I can't figure out the tech stuff? What if I'm not a good writer? What if no one's interested? What if I get it wrong or make a mistake? What if there's too much competition? What if I'm too old? What if I'm too young? What if I don't know what to say?

But mostly, what people are asking can be boiled down to one big question:

What if I fail?

And the thing is, it's easy to convince ourselves that falling flat on our face is the most terrible thing that could ever happen. We avoid taking risks or stepping outside our comfort zone and don't go after those big goals and dreams because we think failure is the worst-case scenario.

But that's not true.

There is a fate worse than failure, far worse. A consequence of not trying that will ultimately haunt us far longer than the repercussions of making a mistake or the fallout from trying and failing.

It's the pain of regret.

After Ruth surveyed more than 4,000 people for her upcoming book Do It Scared™, the one thing that has stood out to her, more than anything else were the heartbreaking stories of REGRET. The mom who gave up her dream of going back to school. The dad afraid to give up his steady paycheck to go after that dream job or biz. The real estate agent missing out on clients because she was afraid of being too pushy. The woman too afraid to follow the love of her life across the country who has spent the last 25 years wishing she had.

In fact, after reading story after story of people who let fear hold them back, She was convinced that there is nothing quite as devastating as having to live with the long-term consequences of wishing you could go back and try again.

Because while the fear of failure seems very real, it is clear that the temporary pain of making a mistake is nothing close to the lingering and haunting feeling that you could have been or done, something different, something more.

Kurt Vonnegut once wrote, "of all the words of mice and men, the saddest are, "It might have been." Along those same lines, Chad Michael Murray noted that "our biggest regrets are not for the things we have done but for the things we haven't done"

In other words? Mistakes only hurt for a little while, but regret will follow you for the rest of your life, if you let them.

And so, my challenge for you this week is a big one: don't let the fear of failing to be what holds you back from going after your biggest goals, your dreams. The reality is that if you take a chance, you might make a mistake along the way. In fact, you probably will. You'll stumble and hit roadblocks and you might even fail—that's just how it goes. We learn from these life lesson or object lesson, grow from them and move on. But you'll also be doing it! And, more importantly, you'll be saving yourself from a pain that never really goes away—the regret of having never tried at all. You need to Just do it! To say we tried, is in itself a setup for failure with a built-in excuse, "Well at least, I tried!"

My thanks in advance for your time, attention and consideration.
Live with purpose, family, friends, fans, followers, and
have a wonderful week!
Here's to your abundant success!

Cheers,

Jon
theM@6603I-Dr.com
Orlando, FL 32819
USA

P.S. If you're still trying to make a final decision about EBA, be sure to catch this open and honest round table discussion Ruth hosted with a few EBA alumni. We answered a TON of questions about the course and what to expect, and it will definitely give you a great feel of whether this is right for you.

.Or., if you want something more structured, you can watch the replay of the live training From Passion to Profit, that Ruth held yesterday, but keep in mind that the replay will only be available until midnight tonight!